Have You Secretly Given Up on Love?
Impossible!
You cannot give up on love.
The urge to love someone is ingrained in us like breathing.
If we stop loving, we die.
I once gave up on love and nearly died. I needed to go that close to the end to find out something so important and so vital that it should be part of the elementary curriculum. Instead, it is uncommon knowledge and you can spend half of your life, thinking, there is something wrong with you, that is why you are ‘unlucky’ in love. But what is the point of life without love? Not much. You become more and more discouraged and want to forget about the whole issue. But it is not possible. Living is loving. Your survival instinct kicks in. It is simple, not, boy meets girl, they fall in love, what is the issue? You see all the happy couples around you, they seem like different species. All that anxiety accumulates in your body and creates illnesses without known cause. Nobody knows, but you.
Then one day someone hands you an article or a book or you have an epiphany after a hypnotherapy session and you realize, there is nothing wrong with you at all. You just have an insecure attachment style and you tend to attract men, who do not love you the way you feel loved. They actually hurt you. They need much less intimacy than you do. They are selfish. They treat you like trash. In the worst-case scenario, those men have a personality disorder with narcissistic tendencies, as your father had, and you feel really bombed-out.
But this is the moment when everything can change. As Joseph Campbell said: “It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure.” So true, so very true.
In an instant, you see how your whole life played out like a subconscious program and it is not your fault. Nobody’s fault at all. It is the nature of life. This is why you are here. To realize, who you are. A free being, not chained by the conditioning of your childhood.
There are millions of healthy, securely attached men out there. The days of misfortune or curse, as you mistakenly thought it was, are over. You believe in love for real. For the first time in your life, you know, that everything will be fine, in fact, all is well right now!
It’s a new day
It’s a new life
And I’m feeling good.
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